When I was a kid, I hated the phone. Oh, I didn’t mind talking to someone when they called me but calling them? Unless they were very close friends, neighbors, or family, I had a total freak out. I’d miss going to a movie because I couldn’t bring myself to call the theater to find out what time the movie was showing. Could I tell you why I had such a phobia? Nope. No idea. I even took a job once as an employment counselor for one of those “find-you-a-job” companies. In addition to talking to prospective clients, I had to call prospective employers and solicit jobs. It’s called “cold calling” in the marketing game. What’s weird, is these people didn’t know me and they’d likely forget me within moments of hanging up, but I’d sit there staring at the phone, short of breath, hands shaking, my stomach roiling. I lasted four weeks. I was going into the boss’s office to quit when she called me in to fire me. We were both relieved. That said, I did manage to place every one of my “clients.”
Anyway, when I came across this message from the Universe, it struck a chord. I still hate making phone calls and have to put on a “persona” to do so (thank goodness for texting and email!), but it also made me thing of something else–something related to writing. Writers can fall into a rut. We find our comfort zone and stay there. I notice it when it happens to an author I read a lot. And I notice it in my own writing. I get complacent, write what comes easy. I don’t reach for the chancy, the edgy. I settle for words instead of prose. So yeah, I need to pay attention.
It’s quite the paradox, Silver, but the more one pushes themselves into areas of discomfort – gently, just a bit, from time to time – the more comfortable they become.
And vice versa.
Thunk it, who’d of?
The Universe
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There’s comfortable, and then there’s comfortable. I need to be comfortable, if you know what I mean. Where’s your comfort zone?















:hugs: Phobias are sucky things. I wish I could help.
Ah, cold calling. I always hated that, and I was a telemarketer, a telephone fundraiser, and a sales rep. So, it’s not just you on that one. “Hi, you don’t know me from Adam, but I’d like to sell you something or beg money from you.” :click:
My personal comfort zone is becoming smaller all the time. My writing comfort zone? Yeah, thinking about it now, I can point to places where the writing drags because I’m too comfortable. That’s when it’s time to kill someone or throw a wrench in the works or piss off my main character. And if you ever see where I’m getting too comfortable in my writing, poke me with a stick or something. I’ll do the same for you, if that ever happens. K?
Absolutely! So far, you’ve kept me engaged and that’s where I pick up on the draggy stuffs and know. Yeah, I don’t ever want to “phone it in” in any way shape or form!
Very wise observation
Wish I could take credit for the original, but that belongs to the Universe. Me? I just muse about it. 🙂
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