Thursday Thoughts: Universal Backstory

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” Remember this mantra from childhood? Thing is, words do hurt. They don’t leave bruises like punches or pinches. They won’t put you in a cast with a broken bone. Nope. Their pain leaves scars on hearts and souls and psyches. We carry those hurts with us throughout our lives. Sometimes, people are just thoughtless. Sometimes, they are mean. Sometimes, they intentionally set out to cause harm for a wide variety of reasons.

As a writer, I want to mine those depths. I want to find out why this character has such trouble trusting, why she wears a coat of emotional armor, yet can still be susceptible to a bad boy who desires her. As I writer, I want to dig into the history of that character to discover why his happy-go-lucky demeanor is nothing more than a mask he hides behind, letting no one close.

When you can look beneath their behavior that hurt you, Silver, and you can see the frightened child, it becomes nearly impossible to be angry or carry a grudge.

And you so can.

ILY,
The Universe
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Besides, Silver, your happiness, abundance, health, and friendships are not dependent on how others behave.

I don’t happen to agree with the big U in this matter. Granted, there are those who strike out due to their own hurts, but there are those who are deliberate and vicious. My writer brain wants to delve into all the whys and wherefores. The ones who set out to hurt intentionally–whether to train or control or just subjugate make for the best villians. To experience the good, a character has to be exposed to the bad. To appreciate the light, they have to know what it’s like in the dark. Right? Now, I just wish that real people didn’t have to experience the same.

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About Silver James

I like walks on the wild side and coffee. Lots of coffee. Warning: My Muse runs with scissors. Author of two award-winning series--Moonstruck and The Penumbra Papers, Red Dirt Royalty (Harlequin Desire) & other books! Purveyor of magic, mystery, mayhem and romance. Lots and lots of romance.
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2 Responses to Thursday Thoughts: Universal Backstory

  1. “…your happiness, abundance, health, and friendships are not dependent on how others behave.” Bingo. Well, not sure about the abundance thing. Sometimes how others behave can effect my abundance. But the rest of it, nope. Well, maybe the friendship thing sometimes, too. I can’t continue to be friends with people who behave badly.

    Ahem. Where was I? I guess I’m just over here striving to not let others influence the way I live my life and how happy I am. Sometimes I succeed. Sometimes.

    And I like the way you delve.

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